Have you ever wondered why has it been so difficult for us to have a friend who will always stand by us no matter what??....well the answer is pretty simple...coz there are not many people who would do something like that for us.
As much shocking as it might sound, there maybe just about 5 people in your entire tenure of your life that will exhibit such a rare emotion towards you!...if you manage to cling onto just 2 of such friends for your entire life, you would have achieved a lot.
You might wonder now,...and would have this thought in your mind which you would want to believe to be true...you would say to yourself...'I have a zillion friends who I meet every single day and who would do absolutely anything for me if I asked them to..' Well, that is where you have an absolutely wrong perception about most of these friends. The thing is, there could be 2 reason for this fractured perception that you have:
1.You sincerely believe that they are your true friends! (Which is highly unlikely, as deep down within you know that they simply aren't).
2.You have created this perception about your friends that they simply cannot deceive you...although you know it is very much possible. Its like a railway track, although you know that the 2 rails of the track will never meet...you still seem to see it that they will!
Have you ever felt that sometimes your so called friends just are friends with you coz they want somethin out of you eventually?...well, thats what it really is...
see...the thing is, all of us are instinctively competent, and it is obvious that most of the people who we think are our friends, are actually not!...they are there with you until you have satisfied their purpose, or coz they feel u would be useful to them in the near future...
I know its heartbreaking to realize something like this, but its better to realize it now & act accordingly by being cautious about such people rather than being hurt by the very same people you thought were your friends.
Nevertheless, as i mentioned earlier, there will always be someone in your life who would truly be your friend...If you have recognized this person,there is nothing more worthwhile than knowing who your TRUE FRIEND is... :)
HR Generalist to Specialist - Division of Labor
15 years ago